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3. Resourceville: Great Questions
StoryCorps.RecordYourStory.Question Generator. Great Questions List. These questions are merely suggestions.Do you remember any of thestoriesthey used to tell you? What are the classicfamily stories? Jokes? Songs?...
www.storycorps.org/record-your-story/question-generator
4. Jest Words
"I don't want to achieve immortality through my work. I want to achieve it through not dying."
--Woody Allen
5.Word-a-Week: raconteur (noun)
A person skilled in telling stories and anecdotes
(from French, to tell or recount)
"Henry was often invited to parties because he was
a gifted raconteur able to amuse everyone."
Are insults veiled in humor less stinging?Try this one:
"Excuse me, my leg has gone to sleep.Do you mind if I join it?"
--Alexander Woollcott, drama critic, to a boring young actor
8. La Triviata
(Check your answer at the end of today's article)
9. Record Precious Stories
I have often heard from both friends and clients that "I wish Ihad asked Dad about his experiences in the south Pacific.Now he is gone, we have no memories or records of his incredible experiences."We often most regret what we might have done . . . but didn't do.Actually, you'll find it is both simple and inexpensive to recordkey memories of your elders.All you need is a recording device, some good questions to ask, and a safe, comfortable and quiet place to do the recording.You can do either audio or video recording.Nowadays, many people own state-of-the art equipment, at least a digital recorder and possibly a camcorder or small Flip-video.If you don't own such equipment, you can probably borrow it from a friend for the few hours required.Because our families may live far apart and only cometogether for a few holidays or a family reunion, I recommend you take advantage of these gatherings to record at least a few of the stories your elders have to share.If the infirmities of age prevents elders from traveling, you can also make recordings by telephone and transfer them to CDs.(Always with the advanced knowledge of the person you interview, of course.)Now, what interview questions should you ask?First, you canborrow some of the most appropriate questions from the StoryCorps website,http://www.storycorps.org/record-your-story/question-generator.You may already know about Story Corps, whose vans travel theU.S.and help people like you record stories for posterity.Some ofthese stories are broadcast on National Public Radio.I agree with the title of the book by Story Corps - "Listening Is an Act of Love."Second, you can consult a few books on "How to Write Your Autobiography." most public libraries have several.From those you can select special questions you could ask.(The value of having specific questions is that most people find it easy to tap into their memories and talk.If you have only a verygeneral conversation-starter like "Tell me about your early life," many people go blank because the question is too broad and abstract.)Here are some sample questions from Story Corps:What was the happiest moment of your life?What are you most proud of?What are the most important lessons you've learned in life?What is your earliest memory?How would you like to be remembered?Or, if you wish, you can purchase my own "Better Family Conversations" kit with nearly 200 questions and other conversation-starters to choose among. This kit has been used by hundreds of families at traditional gatherings with good success.Go towww.conversationmatters.comand click on the conversation products link.Here's what you can do with an audio or video recording:Save for posterity, of courseMake copies for family members.Send copies as personal gifts to friendsFuture generations of as yet-unborn can hear thevoice or see the presence of a departed relative.5. If appropriate, you might play a part of a recordingat a memorial celebration.A few days ago I read a Christmas letter from a dear woman friend who now lives in Thailand at age 93.Even though I've known her for 40+ years, I was astonished to learn of some her special experiences I'd not known about.Although I was grateful to receive her written words, I'd have been especially glad to hear her personality transmitted with her colorful voice.Now that you still have the opportunity to record aging relatives, even for a few minutes, take advantage.You'll not regret doing so.
Today's Answer
Answer:Turkey
St. Nick is the common name forNicholas of Myra, asaintandBishopofMyra(Demre, inLycia, part of modern-dayTurkey(270-346 AD). He had a reputation for secret gift-giving, such as putting coins in the shoes of those who left them out for him,
Loren Ekroth �2009, all rights reserved
Loren Ekroth, Ph.D. is a specialist in human communication anda national expert on conversation for business and social life.
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